Things to Consider for Preparing to Disclose

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When I think of health disclosure in an employment situation, I think of it in two parts (three if you consider the prep beforehand): the conversation and what happens next. 

Before you begin your prep, consider the following:
  • Are you ready? If you're newly-diagnosed, do you need more time to absorb the information? If you're ready to discuss your condition, do you feel confident and if not, what will help you feel ready?
  • The person you are disclosing to is human and may have a human reaction to your news, even if it's not quite what you were expecting. You've lived with this knowledge for a while, they for the last few minutes.
  • What, if any, support do you need to do your job as effectively as you can? What will give you the same fighting chance as others without your condition?
  • Provide reassurance on how you're managing your condition at work. For example, if they are able to make reasonable adjustments, what are you also doing?
  • Are there questions they might ask you? Could you give them a reputable website or resource to digest in their own time that would support your needs?
  • Do you need to get a letter of support from your MS nurse or doctor?
Once you've answered these questions, and feel like you have your 'house' in order, then you can really give your prep your all. Keep positive and best of success!


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